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Dating A 40-Year-Old Man: 5 Essential Tips

I can say with 100% certainty they just don’t get it and aren’t on my level. I need someone kind, thoughtful, aware of how this world operates, who loves GOD, and who isn’t a pervert. Someone I can have a real conversation with who ponders the possibilities of life who makes me want to be a better person and where we can inspire each other. Who will be a great dad and who just feels like home to be with.

Women don’t want broken men, I don’t blame them. I do belive in monogamy, I don’t belive in random, or multiple partners, or casual sex. I don’t buy into the concept of faith. I don’t understand «dating», in this day and age. It will almost be best just to give up and stay single, much to my misery.

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I do you develop confidence to date again? I am 47 and haven’t a clue anymore about dating. Just trying to get my 2nd wind which is pretty hard. Willing to put the work in on a relationship, just can’t find anyone I want to go out with.

Remember that it’s about the two of you as individuals, not your age difference.

I have asked maybe 15 or 20 women out after I got to know them but later found out they weren’t single or ‘would think about it’ and not get back to me. I am very attractive and am told I look much younger than my age and that I’m sexy. I also bring a lot to the table education wise and career wise. I raised a really great stable kid… I am down to earth and I’m told I’m fun with a big heart. Yet being nice seems to bring out the comfortable side of men and I’m often taken for granted.

The normal women don’t want to travel more than 10 minutes away from their place to meet. So, of cause it’s long traveling time because they won’t meet you halfway. Then you find out that they’ve been lying to you when you meet. I’ve cried bitter tears about being single at this stage of life (I’m just over 50), but I am slowly coming to the end of that grief cycle. I will need to learn how to actually enjoy being alone, not just endure it.

@MrsVanDeKampI am merely speaking of my personal experience rather than making a generalization. Now with men, there might be diff reason, not sure if men ever come close to being married though. Being straightforward and direct goes a long way, and so does making sure to continue to communicate what you’re feeling, wanting, etc. A man in his 40s is more comfortable expressing himself and more willing to listen to you as well. Remember that it’s about the two of you as individuals, not your age difference.

I’m a romantic who savors the little steps of intimacy, who finds touch electric – who likes being drawn into a man, and falling for him. If I find someone, I want us to fall in love and spend the rest of my life with him. I don’t want to sleep with anyone else. And I try to be honorable with men, and honest – it’s how I’ve treated them up to this point, and it can’t change just because now I’m dating them. But because of that, I also find Unfair behavior towards me and others to show weakness, and it’s a huge turnoff. I can’t trust a man who has a decade long track record of treating the women he dates badly.

I’m doing a lot of work on myself right now but nobody seems to regard me as “undatable”. My failing in our friendship was avoiding the conflict of her avoidance and not initiating the conversation sooner. It’s important to establish honest communication early where both parties are comfortable and will respected. I will take this lesson and apply it to my future relationships. Sorry but it causes more issues than it solves, there is too many options it’s like having a never ending box of chocolates to choose from! I know i get turned off every time a man says woman are crazy or gold diggers or any other type of negative comment, obviously it goes both ways.

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If a woman is over 40 and still single it’s because she’s a freaking Nut Job. She’s into pole exercise, her horoscope ,her cats, her b.s. Entrepreneurial dream job, and above all herself. She probably wishes Sex in the City still came on. She dresses like she’s always got somewhere to go and pretends she’s 15 years younger than she actually is.

I went on numerous dates, but there was either nothing in common or the men didn’t call after I wouldn’t sleep with them on the first date. I’m 44 and it seems men my age want to date women in their late 20s/early 30s. I can’t and have no interest in starting a new family, although I’m open to someone who already has children. The men who do approach me are either in their 20s (too young and can’t possibly go anywhere) or in their 60s (I don’t want to date someone the same age as my dad).

I chose to work with animals, doing something I love and care about, instead of climbing the corporate ladder or earning the higher paycheck. I much prefer nurturing, and have no interest in “competing” with men. I also have absolutely no interest in being a man. Yet, sadly, most of the time I find that I have to be. I am a single mother of one, and I don’t think I really fit the profiles here. Intellectual, social, emotional, spiritual, sexual… Who is also good with children, although my child has a good father already.

The 45 year old you mentioned, who now wants to bend, is showing that she is teachable, which is an excellent character trait. It is a good practice to give each other grace to grow and learn. @MrsVanDeKampMost women don’t seem to realize that men don’t care about your career, money, accomplishments. Most successful guys want youth and beauty… Women basically have to be the ones who do most or all of the «compromising» in a marriage.

Friend one recalled going to a wedding recently and watching a couple try it on with every single female in the room. She happily reported that she spotted the couple leaving with a very excited woman at the end of the night. I was at a country race day and the drinks were really flowing.

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